The Group Telephone Coaching Program is a comprehensive experience that provides you with the skills, tools and strategies to help you stop overshopping.
The following is the replay to the Free Preview Coaching call which was held on September 17th, 2013:
We will be offering two groups; one in the morning and one in the evening. These coaching groups begin on September 26th, 2013.
Both Groups meet on Thursdays, Daytime Group at 12:30 pm Eastern/ 9:30 a.m. Pacific and the Evening Group at 9:00 p.m. Eastern/ 6:00 p.m. Pacific.
This powerful 12-week coaching group offers a time-tested combination of peer support, encouragement, and feedback under the guidance of a nationally recognized expert in this problem to help you conquer the urge to overshop. The presence and support of others who share your challenge helps to transform isolation to hope, and offers the encouragement each group member needs to stay motivated and create healthy change. Group coaching also helps break through the wall of denial of this self-destructive behavior, leading to awareness and positive action rather than avoidance. The group fosters hope: members share triumphs and disappointments and grow from both.
Our time-tested 12-week coaching telegroup has made a huge difference for a wide variety of overshoppers whose buying habits came in many shapes and sizes.
- It worked for Bridget* and Lenore who had no debt, but whose interpersonal, occupational, and spiritual lives were suffering enormously.
- It worked for Charles and Rebecca whose spouses threatened divorce when they found out just how much debt each of them had.
- It worked for Marie, who bought to soothe herself and repair her mood.
- It worked for Jason who bought to express anger, and for Lillian who bought in an attempt to feel more in control.
(*All first names have been changed to protect confidentiality.)
Here’s what a former group member had to say:
Several years of daily internet shopping had me feeling distressed and out of control. Finding April and completing her telephone support group quickly got me off the hook. The systematic and comprehensive approach really “gets” the overshopping compulsion. It also—and very helpfully—tracks the stages in the struggle to overcome that compulsion. The writing and exercises addressed my habit at every level: emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual.
It’s now two years since I started my work with you. I still can’t believe what a difference it’s made in my life! I remember how much resistance I felt to giving up shopping online every day and also how hopeless I felt about getting a grip on it. Not only do I feel over that, and in control on the internet, but I feel happier with all aspects of my life. Again, I can’t thank you enough for taking shopping compulsion seriously and developing such spot-on methods to overcome it. J. E., Los Angeles
This group can work for you, too.
During the course of the coaching group, you begin to:
- Successfully resist the impulse to buy things you don’t need and won’t use by identifying your shopping triggers.
- Protect your resources, your livelihood, and your relationships by looking closely at what your habit’s costing.
- Learn what you truly want and need and have money available for those things by reducing unnecessary spending.
- Hand tailor constructive ways to meet your authentic underlying needs so your life is enhanced, not eroded.
- Discover the specific pulls of major shopping venues and forms of social pressure so that you can more mindfully resist them.
- Create an effective way to plan your purchases when you do need to shop so that you stay grounded and in control.
- Access your spiritual needs and hungers and formulate a related action plan to reconnect with wonder, hope and gratitude.
- Troubleshoot about lapse, relapse, and upcoming high risk situations so that you can handle them effectively when they occur.
- Deal effectively with the new opportunities and choices that emerge by learning what to expect as you stop overshopping.
Each session is a 75 minute group telephone call.
Each session will be recorded. If you miss one or want to listen to one again, you’ll have access to the playback for that session.
Here is what two other group members had to say:
I have really benefited from the course. It was the push I needed to quit the insanity. I truly am not overshopping and have returned to my real self or getting there, anyway. It’s a process. I had my cleaning lady help clean out all my closets and cupboards etc, my fiancé (yes, I am now engaged!) helped me sell all my “insane -buying” junk jewelry (what I call it) to three different jewelers, the garage got cleaned out of more of the “crap” I bought, and I do mean crap. I feel clean and new. I want to thank you and the entire group for everything.
Culver City, California
Everything is going well. The shopping for me is definitely better than it has ever been. I still think about making small goals and adhering to them. I also think about the amount of time in between my shopping trips. Now I know how to identify an urge when it strikes. Before I never even contemplated my urges, I just went for it, in the past. I continually remind myself that things do not make me happy nor do they serve a whole lot of purpose other than keeping me from saving money. S.G.
This interactive, focused, and supportive group is a weave of new knowledge and new experiences. Each meeting you’ll be getting new material to work with and learn from. You’ll also be setting a personal goal. You may be pleasantly surprised to find out how much you’re actually enjoying these supportive assignments and setting your goals!
In preparation for each session, you’ll be reading specific materials and completing important written exercises. You’ll need to set aside about 30-45 minutes a day in a quiet place to make the most of them. If you can’t commit to taking the time to doing the reading and the written work, it’s better to wait to join the group until you have the time you need to devote to it.
During each call, we’ll begin with a check-in from each group member so that the whole group has a sense of where each member is in his or her process. We’ll discuss the reading and the exercises so that you’ll reinforce what you’ve learned and be able to apply it to the critical moment. We’ll encourage you to share both your difficulties and your successes, to give your journey of self-discovery a forward thrust and allow others in the group to benefit. Then, your group coach will introduce the new material for the next session that you’re going to receive so you’re prepared to get the most out of it and to take your next steps. At the end of the session, you’ll set a personal goal to work on until the next session as a way of staying focused on the prize of stopping overshopping.
Carla McNeil, LCSW** will lead the groups, which are limited to six members so that each one of you can get the personal attention you need. This coaching telegroup is an excellent way to jump-start your journey to stopping overshopping.
Dates and Times
Our group sessions are 75 minutes long and are scheduled for Thursdays, beginning September 26th, 2013. All sessions will be recorded so that if you need to miss one, you’ll have access to the playback.
Thursdays 12:30 pm ET/9:30 a.m. PT
Thursdays 9:00 p.m. ET/6:00 p.m. PT
October 3, 10, 17, 24, 31
October 3, 10, 17, 24, 31
November 7, 14, 21 (no call on Thanksgiving)
November 7, 14, 21 (no call on Thanksgiving)
December 5, 12, 19
December 5, 12, 19
The course fee includes the 12 sessions, one copy of To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Overshop and How to Stop and one copy of the Shopping Journals. If you already own the book, use coupon code “book.” If you already own book and the Journals, use coupon code “bookjournals” and your course fee will be adjusted accordingly. You must press the “apply” button in order for the discount to take effect.
Course Fee: $1250, A 10% Discount is applied if you pay in full now ($1125)
Course Fee: $650 upfront and a second payment of $600 30 days after, if paid in 2 installments, automatically billed.
Registration will close on September 24th, so that everyone will have time to do the assignment for the first group.
Once you’ve registered for the group, you will receive the links to the intake forms; a short Personal History Questionnaire, two brief compulsive buying assessments, a 2-week purchasing recall and a Memorandum of Understanding. When you’ve completed them and submitted them, Carla McNeil will contact you to set up a 15-minute individual intake telephone call.
About Carla McNeil:
Carla McNeil, LCSW, received her Bachelor of Science degree with concentrations in Finance, Insurance, and Real Estate. After working in the insurance and finance business, she pursued and earned a master’s degree in Social Work from East Carolina University. She also holds the designation of master hypnotist and EMDR therapist. Ms. McNeil has been in private practice since 2002 and has worked with a number of addictive disorders. While providing individual and group counseling related to compulsive shopping, including setting up spending plans and reviewing financial decisions that impact the future, she also completed training with Dr. Benson. She’ll lead the 2013 telecoaching groups.