A matter of trust is fundamental to human nature. We want to trust each other – help each other – get along. If we couldn’t trust people to stop at red lights, how could our traffic operate at all? Trust is a fine balance. There is blind trust, and there is wise trust. Here is… Continue reading A Matter of Trust…
Category: Money Psychology
Are You Tying the Knot for the Second (or third) Time?
“I wish I discussed finances before I got married last time.” Sound familiar? Did you know past statistics have shown that in the U.S. approximately 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce?* Not surprisingly, a major cause of divorce in marriages is money. * You’ve found that… Continue reading Are You Tying the Knot for the Second (or third) Time?
Behavior Change at Lululemon – Just in Time
It took the Lululemon sales consultant AND my husband to talk me out of a money behavior that was so very hard for me to resist. And I sought their help to do it. Our money beliefs can be pretty hard-wired. Whether we are a spender or a saver; we value status or find money… Continue reading Behavior Change at Lululemon – Just in Time
Cash in the High Stakes Moment
My husband commented that I should check my tires since one in particular seemed a little deflated. I never look at my tires -never thought to – unless of course one goes flat on the way to a really important meeting while I’m in my best suit. Then I’d notice. The mundane chore was fit… Continue reading Cash in the High Stakes Moment
Dishing on Couple’s Money with Mrs. & Mr. Tomato
Thanks to Cheryl and Stu Benton for willingly ‘baring all’ on their money beliefs, and how they found common ground as a couple. Here is their story. If you’ve ever talked with Cheryl, her intelligence is evident. She had the guts to build an ad agency which was purchased by a larger company, and then… Continue reading Dishing on Couple’s Money with Mrs. & Mr. Tomato
Use Your Mind to Increase Savings by 73%
Have you ever really, really wanted something but then sloughed it off because the likelihood of saving the money to achieve it was super low? You may have just thrown away the possible. How could I know this? For two reasons: research and client experience. In a recent interview with Jill Cornfield of NBC Universal, we discussed… Continue reading Use Your Mind to Increase Savings by 73%
The Shopaholic and The Fallout Part 4
This is Part 4 of Fighting the Shopaholic in You. Eventually, regardless of our reason for shopping ‘til we drop time and time again, we are forced to face the clean up. The emotional aftermath. The financial mess. Call it what you will. Here are some examples of situations that eventually catch up with a… Continue reading The Shopaholic and The Fallout Part 4
6 Questions to Slow a Shopaholic Part 5
These tips are taken from “To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Over Shop and How to Stop” by April Lane Benson, PhD (2008) as published in Adrian Furnham’s most recent book “The New Psychology of Money”. The trick to changing a behavior is to understand why you are doing it, notice when you… Continue reading 6 Questions to Slow a Shopaholic Part 5
Expecting Money is better than Receiving Money
Yes, believe it or not. Our brains get more excited about the money we expect to get – from a bonus, a lottery, a promotion – than when we actually receive it. How many times do you spend that expected reward in your head? A little goes here, a little goes there, some goes in… Continue reading Expecting Money is better than Receiving Money
How Your Feeling Brain Blows Your Budget – Part 1
Jason Zweig does a great job of explaining the two sides of our brain in Your Money & Your Brain. We have the “thinking” or Reflective side; and we have the “feeling” or Reflexive side. Our Reflexive side is used more often daily – it is our automatic pilot, or intuition. The reflexive, feeling brain… Continue reading How Your Feeling Brain Blows Your Budget – Part 1